Success Without Stumbling is a book that explores the characteristics of success. It is a book that discusses the characteristics of success. It is a book that uses case studies and humor to illustrate what it means to be successful. The book is quite easy to read, but perhaps because I spent a week reading it, I found that it is not easy to organize. In the following, I will summarize the more interesting and fruitful parts of the book according to the areas explored by the authors in the chapters.
"Obedient or Independent"-that's my own title for the first chapter. The tone of the book is very humorous, so the chapter titles are always more eye-catching. I prefer to go straight to the point. After reading all the cases in the chapter, I think the question to be discussed is whether it is easier to succeed by being obedient and agreeable or by being independent. The combination of the cases tells us one thing: the most outstanding achievements are usually achieved by people who are more independent and placed in a more suitable environment. After all, if a person is "normal" in every way, it probably means that he or she is average in every way. That's why finding out what you're most likely to excel at and putting yourself in the right place is one of the most important factors for success. Knowing yourself is very important.
"To be a good and trusting person or to be a man with a heart of gold" - that's basically what Chapter 2 is all about. I like the example of how, whether you're a gangster, a pirate, or a killer, if you want to be really successful in the long run, you have to be a good person and a righteous person. Of course there are a lot of bad people in the world, and sometimes foolishly trusting others does get you into trouble, and after a while you'll be filled with a sense of powerlessness and depression...so what do you do? The author mentions a study that I like. In a robot strategy battle, the robot that scores the most points in the end is the one that "initially chooses to cooperate and be the good guy, and if someone else betrays him, he betrays them (i.e., eye for an eye), but after a long time of not getting along with someone, he will forget to start over. This kind of robot may not win every time, but has the highest overall score because his friends and enemies learn to be nice to him. In the long run, cooperation brings more benefits. Also, remember that most things in life aren't zero-sum games, and by being clear about what you want, it's easier to find mutually beneficial strategies most of the time. Also, when the first person to help someone out and maintain the relationship, it usually leads to the best results. Because selfish people are always evaluating two things: can they trust you? Will we see each other again?
There is no answer to the question, "Should we give up or stick with it". If we have a goal that we should stick to, it's fine to give up on something else. This chapter is really about two things. First, how do you persevere in the face of adversity? This is where cutting the goal down to size and trying to challenge one goal after another in a game-like manner can keep you motivated. Secondly, should we make choices? This is actually a question of time allocation. If we are passionate about one thing, it's only natural to cut other things that have low priority. To ensure that we don't miss out on better opportunities in the long run, we can allocate 5% of our time to exploring and experimenting so that we can learn and grow more. As for what might not be worth continuing, we can use the WOOP method in the book. The method is
- Wish: Describe your hopes first (e.g., a happy marriage).
- Outcome: Describe a specific result (e.g., not fighting all day).
- Obstacle: What is the obstacle to achieving a specific result (e.g., we keep arguing about what furniture to buy).
- Plan: Create a plan to break down barriers (e.g., I want to listen carefully to what the other person is thinking).
The essence of this method is that if there is very little motivation to carry out the plan, you can give up, probably because the goal is too unrealistic.
"Is it important to have good connections or good skills?" - This chapter can go straight to the conclusion. For the average person, it's more important to have more friends because they can help each other and it's good for your mental health. So this chapter teaches us how to make friends with people, basically the same way we make friends in kindergarten: find commonalities, listen and encourage other kids, and share. Networking can start with existing friends, and friends of friends can become your friends. If you really don't have any friends, just throw yourself into various communities of interest to meet different people.
"The author concludes that we should use self-compression to take the best of both worlds. or humble" - the author's ultimate conclusion is that we need to use self-compression to get the best of both worlds. Whether we are over-confident or over-pessimistic is not a good idea, but being confident has the advantage of being optimistic, while being more humble is a good way to improve. Therefore, we need to have a realistic understanding of ourselves, be optimistic in our attempts, and be flexible in accepting failures and shortcomings.
"Work hard or strive for balance" - The best way to do this is to give yourself a choice. Because if you have no choice but to work your ass off, it's just stress. But at the same time, we have to understand that the amount of time and energy invested (not excessive, like having no choice) does have a positive correlation with the quality of what is accomplished. You have to define your own success in order to find the balance that will ultimately satisfy you. In fact, this is to reiterate that we need to know ourselves, otherwise we will only live by the values defined by others and will not be able to balance them. If you want to be successful and happy, you have to have a plan.
The good thing about this book, I think, is that many of the principles of trade-offs are organized and conveyed in the form of case studies. As for the strategy part, some chapters are not bad, but most of them are too vague and difficult to practice, probably because they want to include too much content. For example, the last half of the last chapter actually mentions some strategies for better planning of life, communication, etc. I think you can just take a look at it, as there are many related books and materials that are more helpful.
These are the main points that I have learned from reading this book. I hope everyone can have a happy and joyful life.
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